Thoughts on the Meaning of Life… Todd Helmkamp

Archive for September, 2011


Posted by Vogeler on September 21, 2011

Note:  For this post, I’m borrowing an idea from a new friend (thanks, Mer!).  She is currently writing a blog in the format of letters to their soon-to-be daughter.  So, this post is a bit different, as I’m writing it to my little sweetie.  Someday, when she’s old enough, I’ll sign it and give it to her.  ~Todd

Dear Daughter,

Things are moving quickly now, and it seems like we’ll get to bring you home soon!  We can’t wait!  Your brothers ask about you all the time, and we pray for you every night before bedtime.   I can’t tell you how much I want to hold you, listen to you, read to you, play dress up and dolls and tea party.  I can’t tell you how much we ache to bring you to our home, to care for you, to soothe your hurts.

I want you to know that, no matter what, when we bring you home, we are your Forever Family.   I don’t care what issues you may have from past hurts, what emotional baggage you bring, we are your Forever Family.  I don’t care how long it takes you to adjust, how many times you wake up screaming in fear, how many times you reject us, how long it takes for you to accept that you truly are staying with us.  I don’t care how many doctor visits, how many therapists we see, we are your Forever Family.  And we will never abandon you.

We love you.  From Mommy and Daddy, Luke and Brennan.  Forever.


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Another Adoption Tragedy

Posted by Vogeler on September 21, 2011

Nanette and Michael Craver, who adopted two children from Russia, have been convicted of involuntary manslaughter in the death of their adopted son, Nathaniel.  You can read about the case here.

Regardless of whether they are directly or indirectly responsible, this case demonstrates some of the extreme difficulties that come with international adoption.  So many of these children have been abused all their lives, have health and developmental disabilities, and have never known love.

Its not something to enter blindly.

On a brighter note, here is a blog I highly encourage you to read, about and adoptive family facing the same issues, but who respond with ever-increasing love.  That’s the key, people.  At 4 am when your child is awake and throwing a tantrum and you are at your wit’s end, only love can keep you together.





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A Mountain of Paperwork

Posted by Vogeler on September 16, 2011

We just got news that our dossier looks good and is ready to send in.  Hurray!  And next week, we’ll submit our forms to Immigration.  Things are moving right along!

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